My hubbie keeps telling me about stories he finds where the husband asking what gun they should buy their girlfriend/wife.
Let me give my personal background on guns. Growing up I had heard my father might have (what was referred to as) a squirrel shooter rifle, but I do not recall ever seeing him use it. So I did not have a lot of exposure in that sense. But, I did have a neighbor who actually shot at me (and I lived in the country). I had many negative experiences with guns/weapons etc when I was growing up, but I will spare the details. People who knew me before I met my husband were very surprised when they had discovered I shoot, and own a couple of guns. Even my brother was very surprised. I grew up very much a hard-core pacifist, and I mean the type who would say “shoot (me) first, I won’t ask questions” type of pacifist, I believed people who regret their actions and other really ridiculous things.
So there was a comfort level, I needed to be comfortable on my own terms. I would have avoided it even more if my husband simply bought me a gun. The best thing he did, was encourage me to join him at a shooting range, where they had (a wonderful rental counter with) a variety of guns to shoot. He also offered me to shoot several of his guns. I immediately had a distrust and discomfort for any semi-automatic. I have consistenly preferred, trust and enjoy revolvers.
Over the years I have tried several semi-automatics, but still am not at all fond of them. But that is my comfort level, that does not mean all women would resist semi-autos and or prefer revolvers. I am mentioning this to point out the choice is personal. The grip, the caliber, the barrel, the weight, the balance.. it all is extremely personal.
I am going to make this to both men and women, since I do not think men are alone in the quest to get their gal a gun, while they are the majority, I definitely doubt they are alone…
Buying a gun is not like buying an iPod, game, or gadget. Heck buying a cell phone does not even compare to buying a gun. Most people can “work-with” a cell phone they receive, or other gadget. A gun can (sort of) compare to surprising someone with a car. They might be excited, and surprised, and some people are easy to make happy, but if they hate it, it is tough to exchange, and for many people they will keep it but not handle it properly. But if the focus is for self-defense, if the person is not comfortable they won’t use it.
So item #1.. Do NOT buy someone else a gun. Unless they give you in detail which make/model that they specifically would want, and they know they want exactly that gun.
That aside.. a few questions:
- Have they expressed interest in a gun? Because it is personal, because it is a comfort level, they may be afraid or have some other reservation. You can not get someone a gun because you want them to have protection. If a person does not feel comfortable with the gun, if they are not comfortable with guns in general, this may push them further away from approaching the idea on their own.
- Have the shot a gun before? They need to try several guns, several grips, several calibers.. they may hate the first thing they try, they may love it.. but if they don’t try a variety of guns, they will not know what works for them. Maybe they would prefer to try something different every time (then a good rental counter is wonderful, for other people they may feel connected and comfortable with something specific).
- What will they use it for? Target, conceal/carry, home protection? This will also affect selection. You don’t want a 6″ barrel for conceal/carry or a a 22 caliber (you will just piss off your target). But if target is the focus, a 22 caliber is great since it is cheaper to shoot, not harsh to shoot, and fun.. you also will want a barrel longer than 2″ (which is common on conceal guns).
The best thing on earth is if you have a nearby shooting range with a great rental counter. Not feeling committed to a gun does help! If you have a gun show nearby, those are great just for him/her to just pick up guns and get familiar. They can hold and play with a variety of guns. You will notice quickly what they are drawn too (but again this is not a sign to buy their preference, shooting is proving).
Also remember not all men want (or should have) some “manly” looking hand-canon. It may look impressive, but it likely won’t be fun or comfortable to shoot. Guys should not feel afraid of trying a smaller gun, they may discover it is just what they wanted and needed. Also the high-caliber might sound bad-ass, but check out the price for ammo, it may be completely impractical.
Don’t fall for “pretty”.. because what is pretty you may be fearful to enjoy, or it may be looks alone (and not offer substance… you know like most people).
Women & guns, the smaller gun is not necessarily the better choice. A typical .38 caliber conceal & carry (specifically a snubbie) has a mean kick, and she may avoid practicing with it, or using it. So it needs to be practical, something she can practice with otherwise it may prove pointless. Also just because the gun is small does not mean it will be something she can conceal/carry, it may not fit proper on her body and or not fit in the type of purse she uses, if she uses one at all (and even if she does I would never personally feel comfortable having my gun in my purse, what if my purse is stolen, or I leave it behind.. yikes!)
Here are highlights of how I look at a gun, I found some wonderful links that I noted at the bottom that offer so much more than I have.. but hope this helps:
- Fit: I can not say enough.. hold it! If it does not fit properly in your grip, you will not enjoy shooting. Comfort is crucial.
- Barrel: Once you find the right grip, look at the barrel. If you need a conceal, they are typically are about 2″ or less, but some people can manage to conceal a 3″. If you will use it for target shooting 4-6″ is excellent! Anything longer is (or should be) a rifle!
- Balance: Hold the gun how you would shoot, does it feel front heavy, does it feel too heavy? If you can not hold it comfortably you will not be able to shoot properly. There is no standard on “perfect” weight. I have held many guns that are the same weight, but due to balance each felt different. (I have a light weight & a steel gun, which makes it great to switch off when I am shooting, giving my hand a break).
- Sights: Some are changeable, some adjustable, some fixed, some are laser, some are hi-viz, etc. Eyeball the sights and make sure you are comfortable with how they line up.
- Action: Double (best for self-defence, it has a longer trigger pull) or Single action, how comfortable are you with the loading, how comfortable are you with the hammer or racking the gun?
- Capacity: This is one of the biggest problems people have, they think they want to load the gun less frequently, so they want higher capacity. But with a semi-auto you will often have a larger (less comfortable) grip (unless you are a gorilla). The reloading gives you a chance to rest, to regain focus, so the reload can be relaxing. In self-defense if you can’t hit your target within 3 shots you are likely out of luck.
- Caliber: Do also weigh the price of ammo, that gun may appear to be a killer deal, or just what you want.. but can you afford to shoot it, or heck find the ammo for it? Also have you shot that caliber before? The comfort of the gun might be there, but the gun may be too light or too much to shoot. But the fit is a good starting point, it makes it easier to find the right gun when you know what fits.
Here are some great sites that offer more..
- OC Shooters: recommends a couple of books, as well great advice on various guns for various needs.
- Keep & Bear Arms: goes over terminology, pros/cons of auto vs revolver, etc.. they offer a lot of great information!
- Gun Directory: places to buy,places to shoot, and info/guides on guns.
- CraigCentral: wonderful break down on terminology, calibers, and first time shooter tips,.. excellent info!
- EverySafe: about gun safes.
- Gun Safe Buying Guide: does & don’ts on buying a safe, what you need/what you don’t, size, etc.